NLP and seduction have long been associated with each other. Nero Linguistic Programming (NLP) is a term used to describe the way in which our brains adhere to specific patterns of communication dependent on our personality type. Once we can begin to understand these patterns, triggers and Meta models, we can use them to our advantage whilst communicating with women.

When we cause a woman to align and harmonize with our desires and intentions through the use of effective communication, it is known as seduction.

This is why NLP and seduction can work wonders together. When a man is able to quickly analyze and decode a woman’s communications, he can easily build rapport and establish trust which in turn generates a connection that the seduction can be founded upon.

When people communicate they use a particular type of representational system. There are four types of systems and people primarily communicate through the lens of their personal hierarchy. The four systems are; visual, audio, kinesthetic (touch), and olfactory (smell and taste). By communicating with someone using their representational system a person is able to build rapport much faster.

When a person is using the visual system as their primary method of communication the dialogue they use will incorporate expressions associated with vision. For example; “If you can visualize what I’m saying it just might change your view point. Then you might see what I mean after you get the picture”

If you practice a touch, it can become very easy to converse with women whilst employing the same representational system as they are using when you communicate and flirt with them.

If a woman’s primary representational system was ‘audio’, you would hear her use terminology like, “It just sounded like a good idea. When I heard it I tuned in straight away. His voice had a soft tone so I had to listen carefully and I’m glad I did”

If a woman was using the ‘kinesthetic’ representational system you will hear her using words that are associated with feelings and sensations of touch. An example of the kinesthetic system sounds like, “I don’t know why he felt so bad because I only just touched on the subject ever so lightly. Obviously he hadn’t warmed up to the idea or it just didn’t feel right for him”

People rarely use the olfactory system as their preferred representational system as the majority of people are visual, audio or kinesthetic. However, an example would sound like, “The weather was cold and bitter but the smell of the rain was nice. The icing on the cake was him bringing a jumper for me. I thought that was very tastefully done”

Now that you can understand and identify the different preferred representational systems that women use you’ll be able to easily adopt the same system at will, and increase the quality of your connection with women. A communication breakdown on a very subliminal level can be found in the following example.

If a woman was communicating with a man and she said, “I like the look of that place and I can picture myself going there someday”, she would be classified as a ‘visual’. If a man was to respond using the ‘audio’ system with something like, “That does sound good. It’s got a good vibe and it seems nice and peaceful like you could just tune out. I hear you and its quiet a good idea, I must say”

Although the man is agreeing with the woman in the above example, to her it still seems like he is speaking a different language. It will rub her the wrong way at a subconscious level and she won’t feel totally connected to him. However, if the man responded with, “I can see what you mean, that does look good. I too could definitely visualize myself going there”, the outcome would be a lot different and the woman would be more at ease around the man.

Paying attention to a woman’s preferred representational system whilst interacting and flirting with her can assist you to build a stronger connection. Women will naturally feel more relaxed around you if you take advantage of this simple dynamic within your conversations.