Divorce is one of the most stressful things we could experience in life, it is up there with the death of a loved one.

It is particularly hard when there are children involved, it can be a long, tedious and expensive process.

I know my divorce from my marriage of 7 years was the most stressful thing I have ever been through, and looking back I think it probably took me a good 10 years to move on completely.

My husband left me as I said after 7 years of marriage, I must have been very naive looking back, but I didn’t see it coming and it hit me like a ton of bricks. I was a stay at home mum with two beautiful little girls, one still a baby, my dream was always to have a family and be the one that looked after them full time, I never wanted a career, so I married my childhood sweetheart at the tender age of 19 years old. At 21 we had our first daughter and at 25 we had out second daughter.

As I said, it hit me like a ton of bricks, just out of the blue one day my husband came home and announced that he didn’t love me anymore and wanted a divorce.

So followed years and years of solicitors, and thousands and thousands of dollars in court costs etc.

I finally got our lives back on track, my ex husband saw our girls for about a year after we separated, and hasn’t seen them since, and has since moved on himself to remarry with two boys.

My friends were a vital part of me moving on with my life, good friends that were there day in and day out, with hugs and a shoulder to cry on. Also counselling was a big part of our lives for many years after. Going through a divorce has made me a better person, I now have a wonderful husband of 18 years and two more children, and I appreciate everything I have everyday of my life.

Many years later I can say that ‘thank god he left me’, my life is everything I ever dreamt it would be now. There is life after divorce, it’s sad that so many marriages do end in divorce these days but, with support and friendship you can move on.

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