How to control your arousal in bed can be a simple and straightforward process, but most men are utterly clueless about it. Not only do you have to control your arousal, you need to keep your “mental triggers” under. So what are these mental triggers and what are the things you should rigorously avoid in bed to last longer and learn how to control your arousal during sex? Let’s dig right in.

Want to control your arousal? You can’t ignore your mental triggers…

The sensations and emotions you have during sex play a big part in when we ejaculate. Let’s dig deeper into how your emotions are affecting you in bed:

– There is some thoughts that can make you ejaculate too soon. If you are like most guys reading this, you can get aroused in minutes (maybe even seconds) and come to orgasm before you have even had the chance to make love, never mind satisfy your partner in bed!

– Performance anxiety or sexual insecurity in bed is extremely common for men suffering from premature ejaculation. In fact these are often cited in medical studies. If may seem like this is a RESULT of premature ejaculation, but it can actually make the problem worse, and make it harder to control arousal in bed.

So what are these mental thoughts and how can I avoid them in bed?

There are two main thoughts or actions that affect premature ejaculation and make it nearly impossible to control your arousal in bed. These are what you should always seek to evade:

#1 – Making sex out to be a big deal: Maybe you like lovemaking a lot and thus being able to perform well is important. The problem is, when you are too aroused about intercourse your mind subconsciously contributes to the release of certain hormones (dopamine and testosterone) into your blood stream – a surefire way to end the night early.

No matter how much of it you actually get, never make lovemaking a big deal. Just look upon it as one of your other routines – no matter how rare an event it is! This is the best way to calm both your fears and your excitement during lovemaking. It will make a big difference in controlling your arousal levels.

#2 – Performance fears: Next, get rid of fears and anxiety about how long you last in the bedroom. This is simple and by far the best option to control your arousal in bed. Our minds are the most powerful tool in our body. It gives you exactly what you expect! So, if you are mentally rehearsing yourself for failure in the bedroom, that’s what you’ll get! Next time you are engaged in lovemaking, go about it without the pressure to perform, and you will increase your sexual stamina and see how easy it can be to control your arousal in bed!