Trust is the glue that holds couples together. Trust provides a sense of safety and security in a relationship.

When trust breaks down, people feel unsafe and insecure, and the glue that holds the relationship together begins to weaken.

How to re-build trust

In order to begin to re-build trust in a relationship after it has been weakened, you need to begin to ask some questions.

What does trust look like to you?

What does trust look like to your partner?

What small things, if done on a consistent and regular basis, will begin to re-build and restore the weakened trust?

The answers to these questions can begin to give you a map for restoring trust and healing the relationship.

A map toward trust

On a scale of one to ten, with ten being the highest, what is the current level of trust?

What would you like it to be?

Let's say the current level of trust is a 4 and you would like it to be a 10. Doing some higher math, (10 – 4) we have 6 levels of trust to build to. That's a long way. So we break it down into manageable chunks. What will it take for trust to grow from a 4 to a 5, from a 5 to a 6, and so on.