What? You say. No Saturday dates after Wednesday? What is this 1952? Well no it’s not, it is 2005 and sometimes old dating rules still apply to later times. Why does it matter you ask? As long as he’s asking you out then it shouldn’t matter. If he’s asking you out that means he’s interested, who cares if he calls you Friday afternoon for a Friday night day. Right?

Wrong. It does matter when he’s asking you out. And this is why: People value their weekends. In a world where people can easily clock sixty hour weeks the time they have off is precious and important to them. People want to enjoy their weekends, so most people tend to plan their weekends in advance. They like to know what they are doing and who they are spending their time with. So if a guy is calling you Friday afternoon for a Friday night date then it probably means whatever other plans he had fell through and you’re his plan B. And I don’t know about you but I don’t want to be anyone’s plan B.

Still don’t believe me? Look at it from this point of view: You teach people how to treat you (a theme you will here me repeat time and time again). And by accepting a last minute date from someone, you’re sending the message that not only is your time not valuable, because they can call you anytime and you’ll be free, but that you’ll drop whatever you’re doing to be with them.

Even if you didn’t have any plans, you don’t want to send the message that you’re available whenever they feel like calling to ask you out. The bottom line is when a guy is really interested in a woman he’s going to make plans with her early in the week because if he doesn’t, he’ll be afraid she will make plans with someone else. So like I said, if you’re getting that weekend phone call for a date, then you weren’t his first choice. And no one ever wants to be second.

(C) 2005 Tamika Johnson