A prominent trait of any sexual harasser is his or her desire to put unwelcome controls onto a selected member of the opposite or same sex by any means he/she can obtain it, mostly through abusive and coercive manipulations of his/her target – you. In some cases, this harassment arises from a strong disdain for select members of the opposite or same sex. In any case, this activity is unlawful.

Basically, the so-called subtle harasser wants you to voluntarily pay attention to them by no other means than through their clever indirect power over you itself, often executed under a false guise of trying to help you in some way. They do not want you to have a true relationship or understanding with them. Rather, they want you to think you have no choice but to love them while pretending to enjoy it. They cannot deal with mutuality, negotiation, give and take, commitment, and earned respect. They simply want you to submit to them haplessly without complaint on your own accord, and to cater to their deep-seeded needs at their convenience – and at your cost. (Power.)

Five tell-tale behavior clues of the subtly dominant sexual harasser are listed below, not counting the following,

1. basic flirting
2. the venting of normal hormonal or libido-derived impulses in a fun or socially accepted manner:)
3. putting out hints and feelers for potential mutual interest
4. temporarily hitting-on someone mildly.

1. The subtle harasser fixates on a selected target in a stalking manner from a distance.

As indicated above, sexual harassment has little to do with making friends, forming relationships, or trading favors. More accurately, it is a need to have long-term excessive power over someone no matter what their age, size, looks, demeanor, or person is like. For example, subtle harassers might criticize or talk too much about their targets behind their backs. Should these talkers have position or power over their targets, they could be harassing them further elsewhere.

2. The subtle harasser has difficulty with truth and human rights.

If these harassers cannot come up to the same growth levels as their targets, they will resort to fraudulent and unethical means to attract and control them. To prevent revealing themselves, they will quietly and indirectly intimidate and coerce their targets by every subtle means available to them. For example, they might trick their targets into reaching for their ambitions and dreams by committing certain degrading fraudulent acts, small at first, sought by them. To please them further, their targets must forgo their civil and human rights by voluntarily catering to their needs with complete submissiveness.

3. The subtle harasser tries to corrupt the target’s thinking, will-power, and sense of self-worth.

Involvement with a sexual harasser is lose-lose under any condition. Your attempts to give them meaningful support is never enough for them. They will always want much more from you. To please them, you must let yourself breakdown and crossover distinct personal and professional lines of behavior and integrity limits. Otherwise, they are not sure how much control they have over you. If your so-called relationship with them is not seriously corrupted in some way, they cannot trust you because their own controls over you are not powerful enough. You must breakdown, corrupt yourself, and co-depend on them for all things. (Dominance.)

4. The subtle harasser uses his or her superior position to break their target down.

Sexual harassers can be anyone from peers to leaders. Those who get away with it often have influential positions. They know how to use their given powers to coerce, inveigle, manipulate, and punish targets for that purpose alone. For example, if this harassment occurs in a workplace, you as the target could find yourself being forgotten when desirable duties are being assigned.

5. The subtle harasser cleverly enlists others to corner their target through organized pressures.

These harassers know how to utilize sheep-like cultures to their advantage. They can recognize any lack of intuition and leadership in a group, and they know how to work through the so-called cracks in a system. Their enlisted helpers will go along with their contrived pressures if they think their own well beings, livelihoods, or futures depend on it. Such helpers might think they are making powerful friends or getting ahead somehow.

In summary, the subtle sexual harasser wants you to get their indirect message from a distance. He or she also wants you to respond to it by voluntarily submitting yourself to them in a begging submissive manner. If you are unable to understand that message from a distance, or if you do not want to respond to what it seems to be, then you could find yourself being left-out, forgotten about, deemed unworthy, or being punished without apparent valid reasons for it. This kind of harasser wants to control all of their target (you) together with what belongs to the powers greater than ourselves.

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