Back in 1966 my precious and only brother, Dougie, was killed in Vietnam. I can tell that my faith is growing as the old me would still feel sadness, but this morning for the first time I was able to thank God for taking him to heaven. Satan wants nothing more than to bring the pain of his death back, but I decided I would not let him this time. I will remember Dougie’s life here on earth and the blessings God allowed us to share while he was here. Even though he was only 20 when he died, I had 20 years of blessings God shed on our family.

Have you lost someone you love? If it has only been a short time ago, continue to give yourself permission to mourn and don’t let anyone rush the process for it. If you can though try to remember the memories you shared with your loved one and don’t let Satan bring back the pain of their death. If possible on the day of the death, talk to a friend or another loved one about the things you loved about them. Think of things that might have made you laugh or things they liked to do and maybe do those things. If they had a favorite food eat that in celebration of their anniversary in heaven. No matter what you do, don’t let Satan steal your joy of their life by reminding you of the pain of their death.

The below poem is called, It’s Time. I wrote it partly with my brother in mind, but also as a reminder of God’s love for our loved ones. Death isn’t a punishment, but a reward to those who love Him.

It’s Time

There’s a peace that fills the void inside deep inside of me.

It makes no sense how I can smile. How can this really be?

I feel God’s presence holding me as he tells me all that’s true.

He says that you’re in heaven above and one day I’ll be with you.

Although your body may be gone and I’ll never hear your voice,

I choose to believe what the Bible says and it’s God gives us all a choice.

Do you see this life through our Father’s eyes or use the world’s view?

Take time to mourn over the one you love,

But don’t let it get the best of you.

Remember to keep looking up so you’ll be reminded of God’s love.

Your loved one’s pain is finally gone as he lives in heaven above.

One day your arms will wrap around each other once again.

It’s time for you to let go the pain. It’s time this day begin.

©Sue Lueck Carlson